14562 days ago
When I started this blog I wanted it to be about helping other people live out their best 28 Thousand Days by making their own decisions, creating their own path, and living with no regrets.
One of the ways I think I can help is by sharing some of my screw ups with you. This gives me an endless amount of fresh content for the years ahead and hopefully provides you with some good laughs and notes of things NOT to do in your own life’s journey.
Okay, so recently I screwed up…Yea, I wish I could say 10 years ago, but instead this was like a few weeks ago. It’s absolutely embarrassing and stupid, so I think it’s the perfect thing to share with you. A few weeks ago I was scheduled to speak at a major investment conference, one that was kind of like my coming out party for future speaking engagements. My business had a booth, members of my newsletter came out to see me from other states, and it was all set to be a great weekend.
Now for the past 3+ decades (my entire life), at the time, I had never tried an illegal drug, in fact, I have to this day never tried smoking a cigarette! I do smoke the occasional cigar, but I don’t inhale, and those are more of a social enjoyment instead of some type of craving. After 3+ decades of having this amazing record I could brag about, I decided to break it the night before my big speech.
The evening prior to my speech started off with a few glasses of wine with some close friends. I was feeling great, in good company, at a fine hotel, and just enjoying how great life is. One of my friends during the evening brought out an electronic cigarette, something I had never seen, I held it, looked at it, and at the time, I thought about what a great investment these companies must be…I mean surely this will take over big tobacco one day.
After thinking about the monetary aspect, my friend let me know that there was marijuana in it, not just any, but the best medical grade marijuana you could find. At that very moment, I thought to myself, life is good, I am having fun, and why not try it, a lot of people seem to enjoy it. I’ve already turned it down all throughout high school and my entire 20s! I had already proven to myself that I had the discipline to say no, so it wasn’t as if this was something I regularly did, like I said, I had never even tried it.
So without hesitation I put it to my lips and sucked in two deep breaths, inhaling and exhaling the marijuana vapor. Unfortunately, the rest of that night was somewhat of a blur… I do recall dancing at the bar with the rest of the crowd, something I actually don’t enjoy doing at all. I’m a horrible dancer, so I typically hate it.
Eventually, I made it back to my hotel room, fumbled around with my sleep apnea machine until I gave up, waking up at 8am with my slider wide open, my sleep apnea machine in pieces, and a pounding headache. I drank water the entire day but was just never able to shake off that sick feeling, which actually was probably from the wine, not the pot. The entire day I was paranoid because I wasn’t at 100%…Also, the thought of those who saw me the night prior was making me cringe.
Since childhood, I’ve had a natural gift for speaking. So for me to walk up to the stage that day and feel nervous and even fatigued as I was speaking, was just horrendous.
Never in my life had I experienced nervousness before a public speech, in fact, it’s just the opposite, I feed off it and it typically excites me.
Video of that Speech…
The lesson in all of this is first off, we all do stupid things, you are never alone in making mistakes. At least that’s what I keep telling myself when I reflect on my own bad decisions. Most importantly of course is that you can survive bad decisions, it sucks going through them, but you can get up, dust yourself off, and move on. I am responsible for everything in my life and so are you.
Mistakes and failure will happen, so you can’t allow them to take over your life, we learn from them and then keep moving forward. Last weekend I spoke at another conference, but this time, I didn’t have a single drop of wine the night before my speech and that is probably how my routine will be for the rest of my life. I literally walked up to that stage and gave the best speech of my life! And that’s how I want them all to be.
The great thing about mistakes and failure is that you are less likely to ever make them again. I am a young guy, so it’s a nice thought that I will never again, in my life, act like a fool the night before a major event. Instead of beating yourself up the next time you make a mistake, learn from it, acknowledge your stupidity, and press on!