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My hope is that by taking a moment to think about these 10 common regrets, we can all better avoid them or at least minimize them in our lives. How do I know they are common…I don’t, but these are all things I have regretted more than just a few occasions.
Eating dessert, this is a 45 second to 3 minute pleasure that can literally stick with you for decades! How many times do I order dessert, finish it in 2 minutes, and then look in the mirror and realize I am about 30 pounds overweight right now. This is one regret that just keeps coming back, maybe now that I’ve written it down and shared it, I can finally pass on the banana cream anything or my favorite warm melt in your mouth ghiradelies chocolate chip cookies.
9. Saying YES
Saying yes to people I don’t want to say yes to. There are some people I just don’t want to hang out with, yet for years and years I just slave away every time they call. They ask if I can meet them or if they can come over, and my answer 90% of the time is yes, because I don’t want to be rude. Now usually I don’t regret meeting with people, but as a father, I do weigh my time heavily. I mean I do run a site called 28 Thousand Days, my life right now is my kids, so sorry, but I just don’t have time to B.S.
8. Fast Food Restaurants
Dining at a fast food restaurant, these days the only fast food my family and I eat is In & Out Burger and Chick Fil-La, I don’t count Chipotle as fast food. A juicy cheese burger with fries is great going down, especially with a cold coke, but afterwards I feel horrible. Mainly because I am teaching my kids bad eating habits, but also because I have this weird fear of dying from an unnecessary disease, many that are tied to eating salty, oily foods!
Here is a good rule that I can’t live by, never eat at a place where the food is delivered through your car window. Good luck!
7. Over Commitment
This is brutal, I used to do this to myself all the time, commit to several people during the day, plus a few projects for our business, leaving me feeling stressed out. Luckily, this is one regret that is rare in my life now, setting up good boundaries has really helped me avoid spreading myself too thin.
6. Working at a Job You Hate
Unfortunately a lot of people find themselves working at jobs they don’t enjoy, and then to add insult to injury, sitting in traffic for hours in order to arrive at a place that doesn’t make them happy. As the co-founder of FutureMoneyTrends.com, one of the things we have done to prevent this from happening to with the people who work with us, is to encourage independence and offer up a strong support for personal projects.
A full-time position is considered 40 hours per week, but that doesn’t include mandatory breaks and travel to the job. So realistically, most full-time workers are committed to 50 hours a week. If this is true, and you hate your job, then you may be spending 2/3rds of your waking hours, Monday to Friday, doing something you don’t enjoy. That sucks, this is something you will not only regret on a daily basis, but it will end up becoming a life regret on your death bed.
5. Buying Things
While boxing up everything inside of my house for the past 4 years, I realized that we waste a lot of money on stuff. I am not really an impulse buyer, however there is still a lot of items that I either never ended up using or ended up trashing due to the poor condition they found themselves in just months after I bought them.
4. Passing up Vacations
Traveling is something I avoided for years, and now that I have made it a point to get on an airplane and see the world, I am very regretful of not doing this earlier. Travel the world while you are young, say yes to the unknown and have some fun.
3. Getting into Debt
Today I am completely debt free, but a decade ago I had everything from a Sea Doo payment to credit card interest that I was paying on monthly.
“Hakuna Matata,” a life philosophy I have adopted from the movie “The Lion King,” it means no worries. Staying out of debt and reducing your bills to practically nothing is “Hakuna Matata.”
Ever notice that a mortgage broker or car dealer only quote payment? Never the interest rate or full amount owed to them by the end of the term, this is done on purpose. Imagine if you realized your $25,000 car was actually going to be $32,000.
“Instead of signing up for payments use the extra money for leisure and life experiences.”
2. Wasting Time
For me, the biggest waste of my time was during my younger years when I worked overtime and traveled 1 hour to and from my job. The sad part is it was from 18 to 22, so some of the best years of my life were burned up working long hours and sitting in traffic. I think about those days, where I would work a 16 hour shift, literally selling a precious day for like 400 bucks, what a waste.
“Treat everyday special, because it is.”
1. Watching too much T.V.
It’s a rare event when I watch T.V., but in my younger days, I used to spend a lot of time watching T.V. shows, movies, and comedy. My wife and I, for example, watched 5 seasons of 24 in 3 weekends. Don’t ask me how the math works on it, but trust me, we did it!
I am regretful of all the wasted hours I spent watching shows that entertained me in the laziest way; instead I wished I had spent more time with family and friends or just outside doing things. Although, to be honest, watching 24 is probably one of the shows that I don’t regret, I enjoyed every minute of that one. A better example would be the wasted hours watching X-Factor and Deal or No Deal.