14562 days ago
Okay, so this is my ultimate pet peeve, I just HATE smart phones in public.
It’s gotten out of control…I can’t believe how many times I look around at a restaurant and the parents are both staring at their phones, and the kids are either just looking around trying to get their attention or sometimes staring at their own idevice.
Friends and business associates who I dine with occasionally text or read a message while I am talking to them, which is an abomination. This is basically when I put them in the “whatever category.” If I can’t speak to you with your attention and some moderate eye contact, then just forget it.
Wives are hooked on Facebook, kids are playing games, and the men are getting the latest news of some sort. It gets worse though, because then after someone is reading a message, many will actually go the next step and respond to a message while having a conversation with someone in person. This is bad manners amongst friends and associates and is horrible parenting if you are ignoring your children in favor of checking something that probably doesn’t even matter.
Remember 10 years ago when we checked our emails when we were around a computer, and when we were out with family and friends we gave them our full attention… People can’t even go to bed without these devices putting them to sleep now a days. Which by the way is bad for you, the radiation emitted is bad for your cells. The sleeping process is how your body repairs damaged cells, so sleeping with one within 10 inches is literally not healthy and could lower your life span.
My wife and I have already implemented some cell phone manners, but it honestly needs to be taken even further since these phones and the information they provide is addicting! I for one have purposely disconnected my emails from my phone, it’s just too much constantly giving me something to check, and of course the urge to reply.
Ever notice when you are waiting in line for something, instead of thinking, you bust out your smart phone and start scrolling? I do it, not sure if it’s bad or good, but I kind of miss just thinking to myself.
Tips for Great Smart Phone Manners
- While dining, leave the phone in your car, or at the very least, in your pocket. If you have a babysitter or something, okay, leave it on the table, but take a second and turn off the text messaging alerts so only phone calls will go through. Unlike a phone call, texts make you feel obligated to respond immediately.
- Turn off electronic devices before sleeping, or leave them outside of your bedroom. Kill the urge to check your phone after peeing in the middle of the night or using it as a sleep aid. I am serious, these things are not good for your cells. Studies are popping up all over the place, even the World Health Organization is now officially saying cell phones may even lead to cancer and brain tumors. (Supporting link: http://www.cnn.com/2011/HEALTH/05/31/who.cell.phones/)
- While driving, don’t text. It’s dangerous and could kill you and others around you. It’s not fair, how can you drive a motor vehicle and not give the road your full attention. Be respectful to others who want to live and need you driving your best.
- When spending time with children, keep the phone far from you, put it in a drawer, leave it in the car, whatever you have to do, don’t be the parent at the park staring at your phone while pushing your toddler on the swing. Or worse, scrolling away when your child has said mom/dad for the 10th time. It’s sad, rude, and bad parenting that will have long lasting damage on your child and your relationship with them.
- Give the people that are with you a priority. It’s rude to constantly answer your phone and text while with others. 99% of the Facebook posts, messages, and calls can wait.*If you own a business or NEED to take a call or text, take a moment to let the person you are with know why you may need to step away. While at lunch, business associates and myself will often pause for a cell phone break, check emails, voicemails, and text messages. This way it is a thought out break where we all tend to our businesses’ needs; once done, phones get put away and we are all back to giving each other our full attention.
- Put the phone to airplane mode if you are going to let a child play with it. Like I said, studies are coming out that these may not be healthy for us, it’s better to err on the side of safety. Keep the wireless energy and radiation (I know it is small) away from children.
- Clean your phone daily, these things are dirtier than a public toilet seat. Think about it, your hands touch people, things, food, all kinds of nasty things, then you touch your phone. You wash your hands, but the phone just sits there collecting all kinds of bacteria and filth. Take an alcohol swab or baby wipe to that filthy nasty phone every day!
The most important thing to remember, hold on, my phone just chirped, I will need to finish this essay later, need to check a Facebook alert!