14562 days ago
Hopefully I don’t fail at this, because my marriage is the cornerstone of my entire life, the very state of my being. My wife and are real life partners, building a family with a long lasting legacy in mind.
I have let my wife down on so many levels, so I keep 3 things in mind as I strive to become a better husband. My best advice to anyone who wants to be a great husband is something I myself don’t always follow, because good advice is easy to forget, especially when you are mad.
1. Never Subtract her Value as a Person, Always Add
Whether it is her ideas, actions, or plans, try and add value. My own wife is late to everything which drives me nuts. So, instead of venting my frustration, I try to help her be on time. This involves getting the household moving extra early, stepping away from the office to help out with little things: like getting the kids shoes on and loaded up in the car. Seems like simple things, but when you are trying to work on your business during a scheduled time, its not always convenient to stop what you are doing.
If she has a bad idea, instead of destroying it, do your best to improve the same idea or provide another option that still includes hers.
2. Give Her Your Undivided Attention
Turn off the T.V., put the cell phone in a drawer, and stop reading or doing whatever it is that you like to do. When speaking with your wife, or listening to her, give her your full attention.
I know multi-tasking is a skill we all have, but the best investment for your marriage is to look your wife in the eyes while she is talking. Have a special time everyday for at least 1 hour that you just talk with your wife. Some couples may enjoy this talk while having a nice walk. My wife and I enjoy talking on the couch with some wine after the kids have gone to bed.
3. Love Her
Kind acts, small notes, even a text message, always remind your wife how much you love and appreciate her.
Summary: A life partner isn’t for everyone, so this is not an advertisement for marriage. However, I have found great joy in my life by being married. My wife and I have truly set some big goals and plans for how we see our lives playing out, and together, we are accomplishing a lot.